From its first steps as a unique phenomenon in the Bosom of Mother-Earth, the young mankind, due to natural ignorance of the Truth, has inevitably allowed to manifest through itself the law of self-affirmation in an unusually vivid form.
2. What has brought every representative of the entire human society into an unbalanced and painful state of endless disputes and all sorts of competitions with each other in order to try as much as possible to take the most advantageous place under the Sun,
3. At the same time, completely dedicating to this all their thoughts, physical efforts and every day of their life until the end of it,
4. Necessarily creating in such kind of efforts, in order to stifle the voice of conscience, all sorts of slogans, through whose prism one’s own efforts obtain the illusion of nobility.
5. And only by repeatedly returning to the Earth in a new flesh by the Will of the Great Heavenly Father, those, who have worked satisfactorily before, acquire ever greater balance.
6. But the law of self-affirmation with all its inherent diverse regularities in the dawn of the beginning of the formation of the young mankind has inevitably become the foundation of the formation of the living arrangement of the whole human society.
7. Where it was not necessary at all to instill this feature in the various disunited peoples, for it uniformly constitutes the root basis of the animal side in human psyche and essentially strives to display itself also uniformly.
8. The essence of this living arrangement, resting on the very same foundation, has been preserved to the present day.
9. Where throughout the whole, relatively long history of formation of the human society, only the external decorations and slogans have been changing for everyone.
10. Even if you consciously do not directly and openly define your neighbours as rivals, through your way of living, which among you is like an endless competitive contest for the most convenient and advantageous benefits and positions, where the significance of your own egoistic ideas is often actually placed above the value of the very life of someone from your neighbours, and also making exclusively comparative assessments of the qualities of your neighbours, you show in a convincing and eloquent way that you perceive your neighbours precisely as probable rivals.
11. The concept “rival” at the conscious level in man is compared with the image of somebody, in front of whom one should not be completely open, whom one should not completely trust, with whom one should be careful and whom one should fear, and therefore, if possible, one should try to bypass, defeat or eliminate him,
12. But he can also be allowed to stay around for some time, if he happens to be interested in helping you profitably.
13. When forming family couples, the regularity under consideration is still manifested to a certain extent, even if there are feelings of love.
14. For such a circumstance is perceived by you, above all, as the acquisition of someone whom you passionately desired to have next to you.
15. This is precisely what brings great sorrow when the one you love unites in love not with you, but with someone else.
16. You do not yet unite with your neighbour into a family couple with the expression of your gratitude to him for allowing you to be near him,
17. Maintaining this gratitude and even showing it from time to time, even if you endure considerable difficulties from your neighbour.
18. By falsely perceiving the value of your neighbour’s need for you, you also falsely assess your need for him.
19. Because of that, in certain circumstances, you unexpectedly learn about your supposedly little use to him, and you experience painful fiery sensations, for this you compare with recognition of your alleged worthlessness, and you can, as if, be necessarily abandoned, replaced by someone more profitable.
20. Remember! The spiritually aspiring man, above all, hastens to learn how to be useful,
21. And all the rest expect mainly confirmation of their usefulness from the neighbours.
22. By constantly expecting from your neighbour signs of attention, words of love for you and how much he needs you, you thereby show your distrust and fear of him.
23. For, depending on the fact that your inner world is more filled with negative qualities and you have an egoistic interested perception of your neighbour, you painfully expect from him the manifestation of those qualities which you fear yourself.
24. And when through externally expressed life circumstances you again notice the absence of the signs of attention expected precisely by you, then you are inclined to immediately attach a negative motive to the actions displayed by the neighbour,
25. In which, ostensibly, is unambiguously manifested the waning interest in you with the inevitable subsequent replacement of you as an already unprofitable “commodity” by a more profitable one.
26. The faster and more strongly you fall under the influence of such kind of experiences and speculations, without specifying the truth of what has actually happened, the greater the strength of the suspicion which you keep in the depths of your being, of the supposedly existing inclination of your neighbour to easily betray you and cause you a great psychological trauma.
27. This means that in a joint desire to come to something joyful in the formation of a married couple, it is you that have in the depths of your sensual world a persistent fear of your neighbour,
28. Formed in you as a natural result of an upbringing on the basis of false psychological attitudes.
29. In this case, when you start living together, you will inevitably not be completely open to each other, you will be cautious, wary of many of your actions which supposedly could necessarily lead to what you fear.
30. And this will necessarily lead the state of your family life to something unsightly and, at first glance, meaningless, if you are not still held back by the small children you have born together.
31. For the nature of your behavior towards your neighbour is exactly what happens only towards a potential rival, that is, a person who values, above all, his own well-being.
32. And you do not notice that all your wishes and claims to your neighbour are based on concern precisely for your own well-being.
33. With such an attitude to your neighbour you will no longer be able to form friendly, joyful relationship with him,
34. What those who have decided to take responsibility for each other for some period of time during their joint journey through life must definitely try to do.
35. According to the law of egoism, you prefer, above all, to be the first to leave your neighbor, rather than to be the one who is left.
36. Therefore, you perceive the loss of interest in your neighbour before he has lost it in you normally and positively, as something naturally taken for granted.
37. In this address I have no intention to touch upon the whole breadth of psychology of the family relationships, which I will speak more and more through other addresses and conversations with you, and I will just briefly touch one of the features of your inner world, which has an important meaning and is present to varying degrees in all natural family connections,
38. In order that, regarding this well-known to you basic life manifestation, you vigilantly and attentively discern the necessary regularities which must necessarily be correctly resolved in full compliance with the Word of God.
39. Because the well-being of the human society must begin with the well-being of the family couple.
40. Where the well-being is not at all dependent on sparkling tiles, but always on the presence of a luminous spiritual world.
41. And through the given life circumstances I would like to emphasise that in conditions when you begin to independently imply certain motives in the outwardly expressed actions of your neighbour – and this is exactly the way you always try to assess the probable qualities of those with whom you become acquainted in some way – in fact you will as yet still be putting into those motives your own vices and predisposition to them in similar conditions to those in which your neighbour somehow manifests himself.
42. That is, in fact, in your consciousness there will not be drawn the true image of the one you have come in contact with,
43. But there will be created only an image of a person, woven on the basis of your interested attitude towards him, with the help of the qualities which you have acquired during your own life journey.
44. You will not be able to create in your consciousness an image of man, using qualities that you have not acquired, you have not comprehended, and, therefore, that are completely unknown to you.
45. For this reason, trying hastily to make a judgement concerning someone whom you come into contact with, in fact, you are ignorantly trying to see yourself in him,
46. Necessarily attributing to him what you interestedly wish to see in him.
47. And only the colours of the interest, spiritual or egoistic, will peculiarly colour your sensual perception.
48. As long as you will even marginally perceive each other as potential rivals, you will deep down be afraid and fear each other,
49. And so, you will remain strangers among yourselves, regardless of the fact, whether your lips smoothly glorify the Name of God or not.
50. There will never be One Common Family of worthy children of God under such circumstances.